When an ex starts dating
So, let them have their fun and concentrate on making your own life better. I hope you understand that we don't want to hurt you.
You escaped the emotional and physical battering from your last relationship.
It was one of those “Leave It to Beaver”-esque, respectful breakups that if re-enacted for stage and screen would be as exciting as sobriety. – followed by the classic after-all-we’ve-been-through-let’s-be-BFFs routine which ended with a joint custody kerfuffle over our cat (pffft, yeah right, and ruin my new persona? There, on my newsfeed, was his updated profile picture – a pukey couple shot from one of their dates, followed by nauseating comments from their family and friends. I didn’t need the gory details, but a warning would’ve been nice so I could ready myself for the dozens of emails, texts, and pity calls I would receive from our mutual friends – you know, to make sure I wasn’t going to off myself. Jane Greer calls “Other Than You” Syndrome: a form of jealousy we go through after a breakup that’s disguised as girl hate. Still, I being single and everything that goes with it: the solitude, the freedom, and most importantly, the opportunity to be exactly who I am without having to deal with how or why it inconveniences someone else.
But now, you are getting stronger daily, learning to love yourself again and working through all the hurt, fear and anger you have experienced in the past.Coping requires knowing your feelings, talking to your friend and deciding upon some strategies to keep your friendship intact.I’d like to foreshadow this tale of my psychotic break by mentioning our breakup was totally mutual. We went on like this for about six months or so: chitchatting about work and school, sharing adorable cat pictures, and updating each other about our families. The mofo started dating someone new and I was blindsided by the news in the most clichéd way possible: on Facebook. Your ex and "your friend" are the ones who should feel stupid, NOT YOU! Their relationship is working because of the "scandalous and forbidden" element. When that wears off, and everyone in the community moves on to the next piece of gossip, and your ex and your friend really get to know each other, the appeal will fade. He or she could be doing this to you to act out his or her passive aggressive anger. I felt like a naïve chump who was the subject of their laughter. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to handle it and how to keep from going insane: 1. Plus, when the relationship ends, the only thing people will remember is how you reacted. DO NOT make a scene and get into a girl fight with the girl. You don't' have to be overly friendly to your ex and your friend.